JESSICA STAHL
A fearless feminist creative smashing stigmas and inspiring a global community through humor (and cartoons).
Meet Jessica Stahl, a thought leader, creative director, and the taboo-breaking cartoonist behind Vanillacooldance—a global movement empowering over 75,000 people to embrace their shameless selves. Named Sex & Relationships Creator of the Year at the bCreator Awards, Jessica unapologetically challenges societal norms around sexuality, relationships, and self-expression with wit, sass, and authenticity.
Through her Instagram cartoons, guerrilla activations, workshops, and her Substack newsletter SHAMELESS, Jessica creates transgressive, thought-provoking statements that spark vital conversations.
Drawing inspiration from her own fearless journey, which began with a one-way ticket from NYC to Amsterdam, she tackles unspoken topics head-on. Nothing is off-limits—from period sex to egg freezing. Her superpower? Making the uncomfortable approachable and inviting all into the conversation for lasting change.
Taking her message to the streets, Jessica’s viral guerrilla campaigns demand attention. Whether hijacking Amsterdam during King’s Day with giant cartoons of the Dutch King & Queen getting it on to #CloseTheOrgasmGap, celebrating Pride, or protesting legal decisions in DC, her art disrupts the status quo—think Banksy, with a sexy twist.
Recognized as a global creative leader by Cannes Lions’ 2024 See It Be It program, Jessica collaborates with mission-driven organizations, agencies, and fellow change-makers, smashing taboos and transforming cultural narratives one bold idea at a time.
Links and Projects
Topics she likes talking or writing about:
How sex tech is changing our sex lives: From AI intimacy apps, to sex robots and the intersectionality of sex and accessibility.
Censorship in 2025: How sex-positive creators are targeted on social media, while harmful content thrives. Why we need unions for creators. And how Instagram shut down my account right after I won Creator of the Year. The irony is real.
Zuckerberg's latest Meta policies & a political agenda: How Meta’s latest policies will continue to silence marginalized voices, including sex-positive creators.
How social media has turned boundaries, standards and expectations into buzzwords that are causing more division than connection.
What we can all learn from the Kink, BDSM & Tantric communities. Entering these spaces has transformed my approach to intimacy and self-awareness in ways I never imagined—lessons that everyone, kink or not, can learn from.
Sex sells. We just haven’t been talking or involving WOMEN or our desires in the equation.
From Silent to Shameless: How our internal dialogue is holding us back from deeper pleasure and connection, as well as providing tools for having tough conversations.
Using Humor to Shatter Taboos: Humor can make taboo subjects more approachable, especially for brands and creators in the sex-tech space. It can help people break out of echo chambers and challenge the way they think. Interestingly, 25% of her audience is men, and they’re among the most engaged.
From Embarrassment to Empowerment: Jessica’s journey from anxious dater to secure attachment, and how she turned personal struggles into a creative business and global community.
Projects
Introducing SHAMELESS by Vanillacooldance: The spiciest newsletter you'll ever experience flipping the script on taboos and sparking the conversations we all secretly crave.
SHAMELESS ADVENTURES: A series where she documents first-hand sex-positive adventures like VR porn, attending a BDSM party with a dominatrix and empowering nude photoshoots to inspire others who are curious but hesitant.